So a close friend and I were talking about the state of black marriage and relationships and we think we have figured out the solution to our problem.......we have a dang manual the other person has to abide by in order to even date. Please don't act like you don't have this problem, because we have all either been the victim or suspect of this epidemic.
For example, you met a guy and he's nice, employed, saved, but he has 2 kids.....yeah not going to work out because you think "baby mama drama". Or there's a single woman, saved, great job, no kids, has own house, etc. ans she's "too independent". We have so many rules and criteria for the a potential mate to meet that we tend to pass over good individuals. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying settle no not at all!!!!
Re-evaluate your list, is having perfect fingernails really going to lead to a long, productive relationship? Does the fact that she doesn't wear weave really going to equate to her being unfaithful? It's time to look past the superficial and look at the necessary. Will he take care of you if you have cancer? Does she have the type of character to take care of everything if you lose your job, WITHOUT complaining and putting down your manhood. Look at the big: will this person benefit the life I want to live, does this person fit God's plan for my life? All that other stuff is trivial......
For example, you met a guy and he's nice, employed, saved, but he has 2 kids.....yeah not going to work out because you think "baby mama drama". Or there's a single woman, saved, great job, no kids, has own house, etc. ans she's "too independent". We have so many rules and criteria for the a potential mate to meet that we tend to pass over good individuals. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying settle no not at all!!!!
Re-evaluate your list, is having perfect fingernails really going to lead to a long, productive relationship? Does the fact that she doesn't wear weave really going to equate to her being unfaithful? It's time to look past the superficial and look at the necessary. Will he take care of you if you have cancer? Does she have the type of character to take care of everything if you lose your job, WITHOUT complaining and putting down your manhood. Look at the big: will this person benefit the life I want to live, does this person fit God's plan for my life? All that other stuff is trivial......
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